Creating Your Own Suffering: The Second Arrow

Creating Your Own Suffering: The Second Arrow

In Buddhism, there is term called the second arrow. This is the additional suffering we create by creating a story or identifying with our pain…These arrows prolong the suffering and often get carried into other situations that may trigger a similar type of response. We can pragmatically deal with the first arrow to our best ability, but when we see the markings of the second arrow, we must stop ourselves to see that it is a fictional idea driven by fear.

Hostage to Anger

Hostage to Anger

We all have been hostages to anger: to our own anger that makes us act out of control, to the anger of others that deeply affect our sense of safety and to the anger that arises out of response to the rage of another. We can escape this vicious cycle through empathy and ending our use of excuses for others and ourselves.